Translate:                   My partner Mark and I have a very healthy sexual relationship. A major part of this is in making time to actively nurture its development. It’s very easy to let the sexual side of a relationship slip into freewheel. The result is that you simply miss out on something that can be so wonderful. Our collection of erotica, both our own and with some other stuff mixed in, has served a special role in our relationship. It acts as a kind of sexual collective for us both and that gives us with a place to stimulate and broaden our enjoyment. Having a shared collection brings at once a way to express ourselves, develop preferences and refine our sense of sexuality. As we have built our collection over time, some of the things that seem to have worked well are: Regularly discuss what you like and be prepared to let your partner bring new things to the table. Throw stuff out that does not fit. Hoarding lots of stuff is a waste of time. Its better to have a distilled set of quality stuff than a huge pile of junky shots - and who wants to look back on that. Also by deleting the stuff where you dont look so hot, it raises the 'batting average' - heck who's counting? Find the time to take personal shots on a regular basis. It’s all too easy to let this slip. Once its gone, it’s gone and the act of getting out the camera itself encourages greater creativity and attention. Despite the big hype and all the talk about sex, its amazing how little we can end up investing in it. Looking back I realize I was spending way more time looking after my dog and tracking stocks than thinking about ways to grow and expand our sexuality together. In the changes I have made, having a digital record of our sex life has brought great focus. It allowed us to look back on our development and share great times. My one bit of preachy advice, as well as the suncream thing - is don’t short-change your sex life. It's one of the greatest things we have. Jeff